Ask Amy: Frustrated Spouse Seeks Advice on Wife’s Laundry Neglect


Dear Amy,

How can I address the issue of my wife consistently neglecting her responsibility of doing the laundry, without causing unnecessary tension in our relationship?

Dear Amy,

I am writing to seek your advice on a recurring issue in my marriage. My wife, unfortunately, has a habit of not following through on one of her responsibilities – doing the laundry.

While we both have our fair share of household chores, it seems that the task of doing the laundry has become solely my responsibility. I have tried discussing this with her multiple times, expressing my frustration and asking for her help, but nothing seems to change.

I work long hours and often come home to find piles of dirty clothes waiting for me. It has become a burden that I feel I shouldn’t bear alone. I have tried suggesting that we both take turns doing the laundry, or even hire someone to help us with this chore, but my wife always brushes off these suggestions.

This issue not only affects me practically, but it also takes a toll on our relationship. I feel resentful and unappreciated, as if my time and efforts are not valued. Additionally, it creates a sense of imbalance in our partnership, where I am left feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.

I love my wife dearly, and I understand that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses when it comes to household tasks. However, it seems like the laundry is consistently neglected, and I’m not sure how to address this without causing further tension between us.

Amy, I would greatly appreciate your advice on how to approach this issue with my wife and find a solution that works for both of us. I want to communicate my concerns effectively without coming across as nagging or confrontational. How can I encourage my wife to take responsibility for this task and ensure that it is shared more equally?

Thank you for your guidance.

Frustrated Spouse

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