Ask Amy: Is it appropriate to pursue a romantic relationship with my deceased friend’s spouse?


Ask Amy: Is it wrong to pursue love after loss?

Dear Amy,

I am writing to seek your advice on a delicate matter. A few months ago, my close friend passed away unexpectedly, leaving behind his grieving wife and three young children. We were all devastated by this loss, as he was a beloved member of our community.

In the midst of this difficult time, I have found myself growing closer to his wife. We have spent a lot of time together, supporting each other through our shared grief. Lately, I have started to develop romantic feelings for her.

I am torn about whether it is appropriate to pursue a relationship with her. On one hand, I feel guilty, as if I am betraying my late friend’s memory. On the other hand, we have found solace in each other’s company and have a genuine connection.

I have not discussed my feelings with her yet, as I wanted to seek your advice first. Is it wrong for me to consider dating my late friend’s wife? I want to make sure I am making the right decision and not causing any further pain to anyone involved.

Thank you for your guidance.


Conflicted Friend

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