Dear Abby: Frustrated Spouse Seeks Advice on Dealing with Husband’s Cooking Mishaps and Emotional Reactions


Dear Abby,

I am at my wit’s end with my husband’s cooking skills, or lack thereof. Not only is his food barely edible, but he also throws a fit if we dare to turn down his culinary creations. How can I navigate this delicate situation without hurting his feelings, while still satisfying our taste buds?

Desperate for Digestible Dishes

Dear Abby: I am in desperate need of some advice regarding my husband’s cooking skills. To put it bluntly, he is a horrible cook. Every time he attempts to prepare a meal, it turns out tasteless, overcooked, or simply inedible. Despite this, he insists on making dinner for us almost every night.

The problem is, when we refuse to eat his food or express our honest opinions about the taste, he becomes extremely pouty and sulks for hours. It has reached a point where we dread mealtime, not knowing what culinary disaster awaits us.

I have tried suggesting cooking classes or offering to take over the kitchen duties myself, but he takes it as a personal insult and gets defensive. It’s becoming a strain on our relationship, as we can’t even enjoy a simple meal together without tension and hurt feelings.

I understand that cooking is a creative outlet for many people, but my husband’s insistence on forcing his subpar meals upon us is causing more harm than good. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I also don’t want to continue suffering through his culinary experiments.

Abby, how can I approach this sensitive issue and find a solution that allows us to enjoy meals together without causing emotional distress? I love my husband dearly, but his cooking skills are driving a wedge between us.

– Struggling with a Horrible Cook

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